To Build Confidence you have to Fake It First!

Have you ever said YES to something and then realized, “how the heck am I going to get the confidence to pull that off”? Jumping first and thinking later takes a lot of confidence….or at least “perceived confidence” but you do it and you make it work. You build up the courage, even fake it a little, proving to yourself what you are really capable of and actually adopting some of that confidence along the way.

I have learned to fake it till I make it, trusting that the process will help me build the real confidence I need. I encourage my skaters to do the same on elements they haven’t quite mastered yet.

Here are 3 techniques I have found helpful to start faking it:

1.Start talking to yourself like you have already achieved the goal – Feed your mind the thoughts you want it to think. An example of this is saying to yourself, “I land the toe loop every time, with incredible speed and flow” or “my program is skated strong with expression and connection”.

2. Feeling the feelings that you would expect to feel when you have achieved the goal – Identify what those feelings are for you.  Happy, proud, excited! The best way to recreate those feelings is to remember a time when you felt incredibly happy, proud or excited.  Recall that memory and feel the feelings, see the things you saw and hear the sounds that you heard when you felt that way.

3. Show gratitude for the things you have not yet achieved – Using your positive gratitude journal,  include things that you wish to happen but haven’t yet. Showing gratitude for the things that haven’t yet happened allow you to start co-creating with the universe and speed up the time it takes to manifest these dreams on this ice.

Until Next Time,

Keep Your Brain in the Game