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Who is Rebekah and What is Mind-Body Performance Coaching?
I was a Figure Skater who struggled with perfectionism, competition nerves and confidence. This held me back from achieving my greatest goals as an athlete. I was inspired to use my training and experience to create the Mind-Body Performance Coaching Program, a one of a kind program focused on strengthening the Figure Skater’s mindset. It is everything I needed when I was a young skater with big dreams and I know it will work for you!
Perfectionism: A Portrait of Me the Skater
I was a skater once and this is a glimpse into how Perfectionism showed up for me on the ice. If you can relate to any of these statements then maybe it is a part of your life too. If you are like me or most of the skaters I work with you have experienced the need to look/act/be perfect on and off the ice. Setting a goal, working your butt off for months, achieving it then never stopping to pat yourself on the back or say good job, instead moving on to the next big goal. Having to land the double axel hundreds of times for you to acknowledge you did it! Skating a personal best but needing to hear “you were amazing” from others to believe I WAS AMAZING! Catching a glimpse of yourself in the glass as you skate by and hating what you see. Feeling good about yourself after a coach commented on how “thin” you looked having just got back on the ice after a week with the flu. Getting told by a coach that if you lost 10 lbs. you could land that triple sal chow. Never believing you are good enough. Believing you are a failure or disappointment to your coach and parents when you skate poorly. Having a bad practice and feeling like a bad skater. Never being content with how you skate, how you look, what you say, how you act, who you are. Contrary to my old beliefs, Perfectionism is not about striving to do YOUR best but rather about being “perceived as the best” by others. It is about needing that validation from others to prove that you are enough when, in reality, the fact that you are on this earth makes you enough! When we were little we had a much easier time believing this, then somewhere along the way that belief disappeared and we started caring about what others thought and judging ourselves based on how we believed we should look/act/be. What came first: the skating or the perfectionist? I am not sure but I do know that there are an incredible number of us involved in this sport and our passion only strengthens our pursuit of the unattainable perfection. Even as I write this letter, I continue to struggle with perfectionism. In reading this I want you to know that you are not alone. I would also encourage you to push the boundaries of your comfort zone and be real and raw, as I have just been in sharing my story, and ask yourself… How does perfectionism rear its ugly head for me, both on and off the ice? Remember education is power and awareness is the key to change. Start that journey today.
Starting Fresh: The Mental Do’s and Don’ts Every Skater needs to know before Changing Coaches
At this time I am sure you are all aware of the coaching changes that are happening in our wonderful little world of figure skating. One of the most talked about is, of course, Medvedeva leaving Eteri to train in Canada with Brian Orser. Despite how lightly the media shares this information it is important to recognize that this is a major time of transition for skaters. With transition comes emotional ups and down, second guessing decisions and overall discomfort. The relationship you build with your skating coach is like no other. I believe that the athlete/coach relationship is stronger and deeper than in any other sport because of the constant one-on-one connection that is built over time. Whether the relationship is positive or negative in the end it is still difficult to walk away. Once the decision is made there are many mental Do’s and Don’ts to consider to help make the move a successful one from the start. Do’s and Don’ts Do…communicate what works for you Don’t…expect your coach to magically change all your old bad habits Do…expect to miss your old coach sometimes Don’t…compare your NEW coach to your OLD one Do…focus on all the great skills your new coach brings. Don’t…give up if you aren’t seeing major results right away Do…pat yourself on the back for stepping way outside your comfort zone Don’t…feel you are stuck….YOU ARE NEVER STUCK! – there are always options Remember, change is a beautiful thing when you have the right mindset!
3 Teachings I Learned from my Workshop with Elvis
Recently I had the incredible opportunity to facilitate mental training sessions at a workshop with Elvis Stojko. Growing up a skater in the 90’s Elvis was one of my idols so it was exciting to be asked to speak at a workshop where he was coaching. He was known for his mental strength and ability to focus during competition….as well as his mind-blowing technical ability! I hoped I would have the opportunity to “talk shop” with him! Turned out he heard about the success of my sessions on the first day and wanted to join in on day 2. Of course, I jumped at the chance to have him share his story with the skaters. There were so many nuggets of wisdom he shared but 3 in particular stayed with me. Create a Challenger Make it your best on the day Take Ownership of You Create a Challenger Elvis shared that he imagined a challenger, his nemesis, out in the world somewhere. This was some guy who trained all day, never required sleep or food to survive, and was like a machine. This was going to be his competition and his goal was to beat him! Imagining him created a fire inside Elvis to work and train harder everyday. Make it your best on the day Elvis had so many “best” performances! The key was to not compare himself to his very best, when he won the Worlds or skated to silver at the Olympics, but rather skating his best that day. This would help him to reconcile how each practice went and take small steps forward everyday, ultimately propelling him toward achieving his goals. Take ownership of you When you take ownership of you, how you act both on and off the ice you are empowered with the ability to make changes where you need to. If an action or habit is not serving you, you have the ability to change it. Focusing on what we can control, not what is outside of our control, is an important shift in mindset for all athletes to adopt. Learn more about the mental training programs I offer, check out Work with Rebekah
Meet Rebekah Dixon
- Understands Figure Skating from an Athlete and Coach's Perspective
- Creator of the Mind-Body Performance Coaching Program
- Specialist in the Field of Human Development